Books by jim Hancock + Friends

Raising Adults

A Humane Guide for Parenting in the New World

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raising adults

Are you trying to raise children or adults? This straightforward, good-humored look at how current generations see the world challenges worn-out assumptions and seeks common ground to help parents raise adults. 

RAISING ADULTS includes an intensely practical 30-day guarantee for transforming relationships between parents and offspring at any age. The secret sauce is doing nothing — which is a means to ending to toxic behaviors that turn households into generational war zones.

RAISING ADULTS is a lot of things, but it's not about fixing people. It's also not judgmental — toward parents or their offspring. Instead, it's about

  • starting from where we are not where we think we should be

  • asking for do-overs where we need them

  • moving forward with greater self-awareness and a deeper love for the uniqueness of every child and every parent


10 things we should never say to kids (+ what to say instead)

There are more than 10 things we should never say to kids, but we have to start somewhere.

Most of us grew up hearing these toxic messages from our own dear parents and teachers (and they from theirs’) and even though we swore we'd never be that guy, God help us, with all those voices ringing in our ears, that's exactly the guy we turned into after all. 

But we can do better. This little book is about how to thoughtfully stop saying those 10 things and how to replace them with ten messages that are way more useful to hear and a heck of a lot more fun to say.


The Teenagers Guide to Helping Friends in Crisis

This is a free beta version of The Teenager’s Guide to Helping Friends in Crisis. No doubt, there’s a long way to go before this is done. 

So, any and all notes — positive and negative — are welcome and appreciated. 

That said, please be kind. 

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posers, fakers & wannabes

As Brennan Manning turned 70, he realized younger readers were struggling with one of his favorite books, Abba's Child. Rather than lament the loss of public literacy or shrug and move on, Brennan wondered how to bring Abba’s Child alive for a new generations of readers.

I jumped at the chance to remix Abba’s Child as Posers, Fakers, & Wannabes.

As it turns out grizzled adult readers kind of like it too.


how to Volunteer Like a Pro

After two decades paying my bills as a church-based youth worker, I surrendered that business card to work on a video magazine for youth groups called EdgeTV — and once again became a volunteer youth worker. This book records the most practical lessons I learned or relearned in the years that followed. Things like...

  • What to do on the first day

  • Developing healthy relationships with students 

  • coping with youth culture shock

  • dealing with adolescent crushes 

  • reporting abuse or neglect

  • Preparing teenagers for life after youth group

  • Saying goodbye when it is time to leave

  • ...all that and a lot more to help volunteer youth workers thrive